coming together
Sep. 29th, 2021 03:23 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
intentional_lifein my last writing entry I was reflecting my honest raw feelings that i am having with my life partner, J. he and i have been butting heads for a while specifically around two things: domestic duties at the house and our finances.
i used that last entry to let out all my feelings that i have towards him at this time. these feelings included resentment and feeling enraged at his lack of motivation and movement.
I used this entry to help me make sense of all the irritation and frustration that i had inside that was just swarming inside of me.
At the time of that entry j was out of town for a week. He was out of town on a work retreat so i decided it was no the right time to tell him everything i was feelings. I decided that the right time to tell him how I was feeling would be when he returned and we could really get into it.
interestingly enough during his week away hed text me and call me and ask me if i was ok. because i seemed off. he felt "Disconnected" from me and right he was. we were disconnected because i was coming to terms with my resentment towards him. (and some resentment towards his family, more on that later).
and so.... we finally talked about it. it was not pretty. it go ugly. raising of voices. tears. frustration. anger. for a few days. it wasn't a one time thing. it ended with us coming together to do some honest real problem solving around this. it was hard, painful, ugly AND ALSO a big step in the right direction.
i used that last entry to let out all my feelings that i have towards him at this time. these feelings included resentment and feeling enraged at his lack of motivation and movement.
I used this entry to help me make sense of all the irritation and frustration that i had inside that was just swarming inside of me.
At the time of that entry j was out of town for a week. He was out of town on a work retreat so i decided it was no the right time to tell him everything i was feelings. I decided that the right time to tell him how I was feeling would be when he returned and we could really get into it.
interestingly enough during his week away hed text me and call me and ask me if i was ok. because i seemed off. he felt "Disconnected" from me and right he was. we were disconnected because i was coming to terms with my resentment towards him. (and some resentment towards his family, more on that later).
and so.... we finally talked about it. it was not pretty. it go ugly. raising of voices. tears. frustration. anger. for a few days. it wasn't a one time thing. it ended with us coming together to do some honest real problem solving around this. it was hard, painful, ugly AND ALSO a big step in the right direction.
